Frequently Asked Questions

Cock Cage Basics

What is a cock cage?

A cock cage is a device which keeps the penis trapped by a tube around the shaft and a ring encircling the balls. Cock cages remove a man's ability to maintain an erection, have an orgasm, or perform penetration, essentially taking away a large amount of his sexual function. They are primarily used in a type of play called "male chastity," where a man is teased by a partner or Dominant while simultaneously being denied his ability to get hard or cum. Today, cock cages are used for both short-term play and long-term chastity lifestyles, as they are extremely health-conscious and safe to wear for long periods of time as long as they are kept clean.

What are some other names for "cock cage"?

While "cock cage" is the most common name for these devices, the names "penis cage" "chastity cage" and "male chastity device" may sometimes be heard. In addition, cock cages are sometimes referred to using elements of their shape or design, such as "tube cage" "ring cage" "Holy Trainer" or "full" or "partial" cage.

Why should I wear a cock cage?

Cock cages are primarily worn as a sign of surrender by the man, whether in general or to a specific partner or Dominant (referred to as a "keyholder" because they gain control of the cage's keys). You are giving up control of your sexuality and sexual function, quite literally putting your erections and orgasms in the hands of another. It is a powerful expression of trust and submission, which provides a mental gratification equal to or greater than the physical pleasure which you are giving up. In addition, men have reported that a chastity lifestyle helps them become more sensitive, kind, and mentally focused as their brains are not dominated by their constant erections and need to orgasm. Lastly, when you do have a full, unlocked orgasm after being denied for so long, it will be an absolutely powerful, amazing feeling more wonderful than any orgasm which you have ever experienced before.

How does wearing a cock cage feel?

Cock cages are safe and comfortable to wear and will not cause you any pain or discomfort. They are made from smooth silicone, resin or stainless steel, which gently brush against the sensitive flesh of your cock. Once you get used to wearing your cage, you will be able to go about your day feeling completely normal. Sometimes, you might even forget that you are wearing one at all! However, when you become aroused and your cock tries - and fails! - to become erect, you will be acutely aware of the cage trapping your poor penis and preventing your hard-on. It's a teasing sensation like absolutely no other!

How will wearing a cock cage improve my sex life?

Many men all around the world report that regularly wearing a cock cage leads to significant improvements in their sex life. They are less singularly focused on their own pleasure and are able to dedicate more time and mental energy to pleasing their partner. In fact, many keyholders offer their partners the chance to shorten their lockup by giving them manual or oral sex or acting out one of their fantasies. Men are able to unlock a submissive side that they may have been too afraid to tap into before getting locked up, as they learn to gain pleasure from pleasuring their partner in turn. Some chaste men also report that they are now able to get more pleasure - sometimes even to the point of orgasm - from parts of their body which they had never previously considered, such as the nipples and especially the prostate. (Plus, "normal" penis-centered orgasms do become even more intense after a period spent locked up!)

Male Chastity

What is male chastity?

"Male chastity" refers to a lifestyle which features the man wearing a cock cage frequently and for long periods of time - some of the more extreme examples include men wearing their cages 24/7 for months or even years. Typically, a male chastity relationship will also contain some elements of submission, as the locked man will surrender his cage key to a partner called a "keyholder" and they, not he, will be the one who decides when he gets unlocked. Unlocking periods - including orgasms - are often quite infrequent and are either strictly scheduled or earned through acts of service such as doing chores or sexually pleasing their partner.

What are the components of living a male chastity lifestyle?

Of course, the most important things you need to live a male chastity lifestyle is a cock cage, its key, and someone to hold it! On the surface, that may in fact seem like the only parts you need to start living your male chastity dreams. However, there is one other important element which you should not neglect: communication and rules. Sure, it's not the sexiest thing ever, but laying out a set of rules with your keyholder will help make sure that the both of you are on the same page at all times. Decide together on important factors such as how long the lock-up period will be, what good tasks you can perform to get your cock unlocked earlier, and what qualifies as bad behavior which should be punished. It's recommended that you put down these rules in the form of a chastity contract, so you both can reference the agreements you have made!

Why is a male chastity lifestyle good for a couple?

A male chastity lifestyle helps train the man to be more submissive, more humble and less focused on himself at all times. He will be more willing to contribute to the household in the form of cooking, cleaning and doing other chores, and will also be much more focused on his partner and their pleasure when in bed together. On the other hand, the keyholder will become more assertive and confident and be more able to speak out about their own desires and what they need to be satisfied within the relationship. Plus, deciding on chastity rules and playing teasing games can bring couples closer together, as they communicate more frequently both inside and outside the bedroom.

What do men get out of male chastity?

A surprising word that is often used to describe male chastity is "relaxing". A man is able to stop focusing on his penis, his constant erections and his desire for orgasm and instead become more in tune with himself as an emotional and sexual person. He can learn to get stimulation from other parts of his body, such as the prostate, as his cock ceases to be the center of his sexuality. He can get in touch with a previously hidden sensitive, obedient side of himself as he does not have to be in charge or making decisions all the time, instead giving his full trust and control over to his keyholder.

What do women get out of male chastity?

A woman who enters into a chastity contract with her husband will gain power and confidence which she has never previously experienced in her life. Control, both inside and outside the bedroom, will be hers at last as SHE gets to decide everything from what chores her husband has to perform to what sexual acts they will do together - and, of course, she will also get to completely decide when (and if!) he gets to be unlocked from his cage or have an orgasm. She will also be able to become more assertive about her sexuality as her desires, not his, will become the focal point in the bedroom. Many key-holding women find themselves discovering and exploring fantasies which they had never even considered before!

Wait - will I NEVER have an orgasm again?

No! A common misconception about the male chastity lifestyle is that it denies the man all orgasms for the rest of his life, and that he will never cum again. However, that is not true - unless, of course, the man genuinely wants it to be. Orgasms will be less frequent, but they will still occur at the end of locked-up periods. Plus, due to all the teasing and denial, those orgasms will be even more intense than they previously were! Additionally, chaste men and their partners can experiment with "non-traditional" orgasms - those which AREN'T caused simply by stimulating the penis. Examples include "milking" or "draining" the cock through stimulating the prostate or punishing disobedient slaves with hands-free "ruined" orgasms.

How long can I wear a cock cage for?

Cock cages are completely safe and present no health risks. That means that they can be worn all day, all the time, as long as you - or your keyholder - desires! However, there are a few things you need to do in order to make long-term chastity like this work for you. First, don't immediately start wearing your cock cage all the time, especially if you've never done so before. Work up to all-day wear by starting with a few hours at a time, alternating periods of lock-up with periods of letting your cock free to "breathe". Then, if you decide to transition into permanent chastity once you've gotten used to things, make sure to schedule regular "cleaning breaks" where you remove your cage to thoroughly clean both it and your cock.

How often should a cock cage be removed?

This is a personal decision which can primarily be left up to the caged partner and their keyholder. However, a general recommended estimate is every 1-3 weeks, or approximately 2-3 times per month. You should never wear a cock cage for an entire month without removing it at least once, or you risk the buildup of sweat, dirt and grime beneath the cage. In addition, during hot or humid parts of the year (or if you live in a hot or humid climate, such as somewhere tropical) you will need to remove and clean your cage more frequently due to a larger amount of sweating.

How can I ensure my partner doesn't secretly take off his cock cage?

Keep control of the keys! Our Lock the Cock cock cages are securely fastened with sturdy locks and keys, and are impossible to open otherwise. Most of our cages are sold with a set of two keys, in case one becomes damaged or goes missing. It is a keyholder's job to keep those keys in safe locations at all times - we recommend secure, easy-to-access places such as drawers, cabinets or even around your own neck. Just make sure that the keys are not anywhere that can be reached by your locked partner, as sometimes he just won't be able to resist the temptation! Finally, if he DOES somehow manage to get his cage off behind your back, his punishment should be severe - and should definitely include extending his lockup period!

How can I ensure my partner doesn't touch himself while the cage is off?

Some men, especially those new to chastity, will have difficulty avoiding the temptation to touch themselves when their cage is removed for a cleaning session. The keyholder should always be present for these sessions - if they can't make it in person, pop in via video call or have the locked-up guy record the entire time for you to watch later. Give him strict orders to keep his hands away from his cock for any reason other than strict cleaning, and punish him immediately if he disobeys.

Who decides when the cock cage is removed?

The keyholder, of course! In a male chastity relationship, power is in the keyholder's hand and the stress of making important decisions such as this one is taken away from the locked-up man. While a chaste male can provide suggestions, and should openly communicate what lengths of time he feels comfortable being locked up for, the final decision should always be given to the keyholder. However, a keyholder does have the responsibility of listening to their partner and should not make his lockups too much longer than his current comfort level.

Can you have a male chastity lifestyle without being into femdom or BDSM?

Yes! Many people who are interested in male chastity are also interested in female domination (femdom) or bondage, discipline, dominance, submission, sadism and masochism (BDSM). The male chastity lifestyle can easily incorporate elements of these other sexual practices, such as a female being in a commanding role and being more aggressive sexually, tying up a man with chains, handcuffs or rope bondage, or punishments that involve teasing, denial and even pain if that interests you. However, you do not have to be interested in or want to engage in these things in order to have a successful male chastity lifestyle. Your male chastity experience should be individual and tailored to you and your partner's desires, whether or not it matches the "standard" perception of chastity or not.

How can you tease your partner while he is locked up?

Well, you've got so many options! Of course, verbal teasing is a classic method which is always effective. Remind him of how he can't even touch his cock, how his cock belongs to you and you control his each and every orgasm. Call him a bad boy or a good boy - depending on how he's been behaving, of course! Don't neglect teasing him with all of his senses as well. Make him watch you pleasure yourself - or even use his own hands or tongue to do so while his poor cock remains completely ignored. Finally, put reminders of his situation all over his living space, such as a calendar which counts down the days until he can earn his next orgasm.

How can you make a male chastity lifestyle even more fun?

Add some games, of course! Instead of just assigning a random date for your locked man's next orgasm, decide it by rolling dice and adding up the total. Alternately, purchase or create a wheel with lots of punishments and rewards written on it, and make him spin it whenever you command that he should. Edging - bringing your locked man to the very edge of an orgasm but refusing to let him go over the edge - can also be made into a fun game, as you can assign him timed sessions or a certain number of edges which he must reach without falling too far and accidentally coming. There isn't a single aspect of a male chastity lifestyle which can't be turned into a fun game!

Should a male chastity lifestyle include safewords?

Absolutely. Any relationship which involves one partner surrendering control to the other, whether it be bondage, petplay, chastity or otherwise, should always involve safewords. Safewords are a quick, efficient way of communicating when one partner becomes uncomfortable for any reason. In general, we recommend that each partner have a word which means "pause, I want to discuss this" and a word which means "stop this immediately and remove the cock cage." The words should be common and easy to remember but not ones which otherwise will show up during a sexual scenario - for example, many couples use "green" and "red" instead of "yes" and "no".

Will wearing a cock cage make me unable to have erections?

While you are wearing the cage, you will be completely unable to have an erection. The tube will restrict you and cause discomfort which will force your cock to remain in a flaccid state. Most men report that they are still able to become erect as normal during unlocked periods, although some say that their erections are less frequent and less likely to occur "randomly" during the day rather than as a result of direct sexual stimulation. Others say that, after long periods of permanent chastity, their cock cannot become erect even within sight of the cock cage, regardless of whether or not they are wearing it.

Will wearing a cock cage make me unable to have an orgasm?

No. As with erections, you will not be able to have a "full" orgasm (meaning that you experience both muscle spasms in your cock and the release of semen) while you are wearing your cock cage. Some men do report being able to be "milked" (in which semen is released but no pleasurable muscle spasms occur) via prostate stimulation even while caged. However, outside of the cage they are still able to have "normal" and "full" orgasms which involve the penis. In general, the non-cock male body becomes significantly more sensitive due to long-term chastity, and the asshole, prostate and nipples are more able to contribute to reaching orgasm than ever before.

Will wearing a cock cage make my cock shrink in size?

Some men have indeed reported that their cocks gradually become smaller after regularly wearing a chastity cage for a long period of time. This can range from a very small, barely noticeable shrinkage to losing multiple inches and having somewhat less powerful, potent erections. Many male chastity fans absolutely love this feeling as it makes them feel more feminine and "sissy," as though they are losing some of their "manliness" and "power". We recommend regularly measuring your cock if you are interested in this so that you can keep track of any size loss as it occurs. If your cock shrinks to the point where your cage is feeling too large, make sure to purchase a smaller size from our Lock the Cock catalog, as a too-big cage can cause chafing and discomfort.

Cock Cage Types and Materials

What are cock cages made of?

There are three common materials which are used to make cock cages: silicone, stainless steel, and hard plastic or resin. In general, silicone and hard plastic or resin are used to make "tube-styled" cages, while stainless steel is often used for more elaborate designs such as webs and rings. All three materials are extremely healthy and body-safe, and provide unique benefits such as a one of a kind feeling against the extremely sensitive skin of your locked-up cock.

What different shapes and styles do cock cages come in?

Most cock cages take the form of a "tube" which completely encircles the shaft of the cock (except for a small slit at the head to allow for urination) and a ring which wraps around the balls and keeps semen trapped inside, preventing orgasm. Almost all silicone and resin cages are made in this shape, which is extremely eye-catching and immediately recognizable. However, some cock cages, especially ones made from stainless steel, will feature unique, non "tube-shaped" designs. These range from a series of rings, a spider's web, to even the snarling, growling head of a ferocious beast!

What is a "Holy Trainer" cock cage?

"Holy Trainer" is an increasingly popular nickname which has been applied to a silicone or hard plastic cock cage which features the common "tube and ring design". The name comes from the fact that the cage keeps a man "pure" or "holy" by preventing him from masturbating or even touching his cock, and this smooth, easy-to-put-on model is perfect for beginners, making it a great choice when you are "training" your man to accustom him to a life spent in chastity. Therefore, "Holy Trainer" is the perfect name!

What are the benefits of a silicone cock cage?

Silicone cock cages glide smoothly against the sensitive flesh of your penis, feeling almost as warm and supple as real human skin. The comfortable sensations allow you to relax as you go about your day, perhaps even forgetting that the cage is there at all after several hours or days of nonstop wear. However, just because it may feel soft and gentle, doesn't mean that silicone will be easy to bust out of! In fact, it's just as sturdy and impossible to break as any other material, and will resist even the strongest attempts to remove the cage. Silicone is the ideal combination of comfort and security which will satisfy both locked chastity slaves and keyholders alike.

What are the benefits of a stainless steel cock cage?

Stainless steel is the most intense of the available materials, with a cold, icy feeling that can send shivers up and down your poor locked-up cock. It is perfect for punishments, as it's absolutely impossible to forget just how trapped you are when wearing a stainless steel cock cage. Plus, it is used for a variety of unique designs, such as rings and webs, meaning that admirers of the more aesthetic side of things can help their cocks feel beautiful in a way which they never have before. You'll look great, you'll feel great, and, best of all, your partner can tease you through the gaps in your cage while you still remain just as unable to get hard or cum as before!

What are the benefits of a plastic/resin cock cage?

Hard plastic and resin shares many of the benefits of silicone paired with an even more affordable price. It is smooth and cool against your skin, but also extremely easy to put on and comfortable for long-term wear. In addition, it is extremely firm and difficult - perhaps even impossible - to break or damage. A resin cock cage will last for years without suffering any tears, cracks, fractures, or even general weathering. This also makes hard plastic an excellent material for "add-ons" - such as vibrating or electric shock capabilities - that will continue functioning in top condition for a long time.

Why do some cock cages come with a urethral plug?

A urethral plug is a fun, sexy way to add another layer of tease and denial to your male chastity play. Also known as a "sound," a urethral plug is a thin pole - usually made from stainless steel - which attaches to the interior of the cock cage and is inserted into the urethra while the cage is being worn. This makes getting an erection and having an orgasm even more difficult than ever before, as the plugged urethra completely stops any semen from being released. You cannot even "milk" or "drain" your cock via prostate stimulation, because the urethral plug keeps everything completely trapped inside! (Keep in mind that some, solid urethral plugs can only be worn for short periods of time, as they also prevent urination, which can lead to discomfort, pain, or even infection. However, nowadays, some state-of-the-art cock cages come with urethral plugs that can be attached to catheter tubes, allowing urine - but not semen! - to be regularly released.)

What does wearing a urethral plug feel like?

Much like the cock cage itself, wearing a urethral plug can best be described as the perfectly torturous combination of pleasure and pain. In particular, it enhances the feelings of desperation and pressure which come with being unable to have an orgasm, because your urethra will be stuffed full and you will constantly be reminded of your inability to release. It has been described by satisfied customers as being even more intense than simply wearing a "standard" cock cage, as the cool metal or silicone both wraps around the outside of your cock and deeply penetrates the interior.

What's so special about pink cock cages?

Pink is the number one most popular cock cage color here at Lock the Cock. But just what makes these delicate, pastel shades of pink so popular? Well, it all comes down to the color pink's one of a kind ability to make you feel like a total sissy. Pink is the color most commonly associated with women and feminine things, so a man wearing a pink cock cage will constantly be reminded of how feminine he is. This makes pink cock cages perfect for feminization and sissy play, where the keyholder (often a woman) takes on a dominant role and refers to the caged man using feminine nicknames such as "good little girl". To make your sissy play even more intense, refer to a cock locked in a pink cage as a "clit" or "pussy" and pair your pink cage with frilly feminine underwear such as stockings or lace panties.

What is an electric cock cage?

An electric cock cage is made from safe, non-conductive silicone and features the ability to deliver electric shocks of varying lengths and intensities directly to the sensitive flesh of your cock. Vibrations are controlled by a small remote with buttons that can vary the size and duration of the shock. These shocks add another unique element to your male chastity lifestyle, as the keyholder has a quick, easy, painful and pleasurable (not to mention torturous!) way to punish their chastity slave when they are being a bad boy. Disobeying rules can be met with anything from a short, sharp shock to a seemingly endless session of non-stop drawn out shocks. To make things even worse, over time, the locked man will begin to experience the shocks as a source of pleasure - but, of course, will still be just as unable to release as ever because their cock is locked up tight!

How does having your cock shocked feel?

Like most elements of the cock cage experience, electric shocks feel like a combination of the world's worst punishment and a pleasure that you have never felt before. The electricity is mild enough that it will not cause any true pain or damage to your body - in fact, the feeling has often been compared to receiving a static shock after walking across a carpet in the winter. As it receives each shock, your cock - denied the sensation of touch for so long - will attempt to become erect, as after so much denial any kind of touch at all becomes pleasurable. Of course, getting hard will be impossible because your snug, safe, silicone cock cage will be just as securely fastened as always!

Are electric cock cages safe?

Yes! At Lock the Cock, all of our electric cock cages are made from hard plastic, resin, or silicone, materials which do not conduct an electrical charge. None of our cages are made from conductive material such as stainless steel. In addition, even our resin and hard plastic electric cages feature an inner lining of silicone in order to provide that extra layer of protection to the sensitive skin of your cock!

Wearing a Cock Cage

How do I measure myself for a cock cage?

In order to purchase a properly fitted cock cage, you must first make two measurements. One, you need to measure the length of your cock - while it is flaccid, NOT erect! This will make sure that the "tube" part of the cage will not be too long or too wide. Remember, you want your cock to be constricted so that you cannot possibly get an erection. Second, you also have to measure the circumference or "thickness" of your cock at its base, right next to your balls. This is the part where the ring will be fastened, and you want to make sure that it will fight tightly enough so that your semen is kept firmly trapped inside your balls, but not too tight so that it pinches or chafes your skin. Take your measurements in centimeters. We recommend using a straight ruler to find the length of your cock and a flexible measuring tape or piece of string to measure the circumference around your balls.

How do I choose a cock cage which will fit?

First, find the two necessary measurements - length and thickness - as discussed above. Then, browse the extensive Lock the Cock catalog to find the perfect cage for you. (Of course, if you can't decide on just one, it's totally okay to buy several so that you have lots of different options!) In general, you should choose a cage that is between 1/4 and 1/2 inch shorter than the length of your cock, as extra protection against getting hard. Most of our Lock the Cock cages come with a variety (usually between 2-5) sizes of cock rings, so that you will be able to choose the correct one which fits comfortably around the base of your locked penis.

How do I put on a cock cage?

A cock cage must be put on in two stages. First, fasten the ring around the base of your cock just beside your balls. Today, most cock cages (including most of those sold here at Lock the Cock) feature "hinged rings," which can be simply opened and closed via a small hinge. However, a few include "solid rings," which do not have a hinge and are recommended for men who absolutely cannot resist the temptation to unlock their rings themselves. These must be put on by slowly sliding your cock and balls through the ring a little bit at a time. Next, place the tube over your cock, lining up the slit at the end with the tip of your cock as best as possible. This allows you to urinate without spraying drops all over the inside of your cock cage. Once everything is fastened, take a walk around the house to make sure that nothing is chafing or pinching your skin.

Should I be hard or soft while putting on my cock cage?

You should always remain flaccid when putting on your cock cage. Cock cages are designed to fit around your flaccid cock only, and an erection will be tight, uncomfortable and even painful inside your cage - that is, if you can even get it to fit in the first place! Do not finish putting on your cock cage if you are not flaccid. If you start getting hard, stop and soften up before trying again.

What if I keep getting hard when putting on my cock cage?

Well, in that case, you're being a bad boy and deserve to be punished by your keyholder, of course! Keyholders, if your chastity slave can't stop getting hard, feel free to give him a spanking or tie up his hands until he manages to get control of himself. A particularly effective method is to use cold, as decreasing the temperature of his cock will cause it not only to lose its erection, but also "shrivel up" and become as small as possible! This can be accomplished either by making him take a cold shower or swim or applying ice cubes directly to his cock before putting on the cage.

Do I need to use lube to put on my cock cage?

There is no "one right answer" to this question - it depends entirely on the person! Some men find themselves able to comfortably apply a cock cage without using any lubricant at all, while others need just that little bit of slickness to help slide their cage into its new home. In general, it is recommended that you use lube the first few times you put on a new cock cage, and don't "go lube-free" until you've gotten used to its fit and feeling.

Which lube pairs best with cock cages?

As with all sex toys, you should only use official sexual lubricants with your cock cage. Do not ever rely on "DIY" alternatives or household items such as lotions, soaps or cooking oils. Because cock cages are worn for long periods of time, it is recommended that you use a thinner lube which will dry quickly but not leave behind any "sticky" or "tacky" residue when it dries. Water-based lubricants are generally comfortable, easy to use and easy to clean, although slightly thicker silicone-based lubricants are also popular for their unique extra-smooth glide! (However, make sure to avoid silicone-based lubricants if you are wearing a silicone cock cage, as they can react poorly to one another and cause your cage to become chipped or cracked.)

What if my cock cage hurts or is uncomfortable?

If you feel any pain at all, tell your keyholder immediately and have them remove your cock cage right away. (It is recommended that you have a safe word in place that will let them know that it is urgent and that immediate removal is required). Check the cage thoroughly for any breaks or cracks, while also checking your cock for any injuries or chafing. If everything seems in order, give your cage a cleaning and use plenty of lube the next time that you put it on. Usually, that will address the problem. If it persists, it is likely that your cage is not fitting properly and you should look into purchasing a new model.

How do I remove my cock cage?

A locked chastity slave will be allowed to remove their cock cage only when their keyholder allows it. The decision should never be their own. However, when the time comes to remove the cage, do so by first unfastening the ring from around the base of your cock. Then, slowly slide your shaft out of the tube. That's it, you're free! Although, we do recommend keeping a firm grip only on the cage as you remove it, and avoid touching your cock so that you do not become hard. While the cage is removed, keep its separate parts (lock, ring and tube) together and store them in the same place so that you do not lose track of any pieces.

Are there any situations where a cock cage should always be removed?

Yes. These situations are few and far between, but should be kept in mind in case they do arrive. Most prominently, a cock cage should be removed when the locked man visits the doctor (either a general practitioner or a specialist such as a urologist), so that the penis can be properly examined without the cage getting in the way. Secondly, metal cages or cages featuring metal locks should be removed when going through airport security. This is because the cage will set off the metal detectors, leading to an uncomfortable examination and a potentially embarrassing explanation to the authorities. Finally, the cage must be removed when getting a MRI, CAT scan, or any other kind of full-body X-ray, as the presence of the cage will skew the results of the test. Of course, keyholders should feel free to set plenty of strict rules during these periods of unlock, to ensure that their partner doesn't take advantage of his free time to touch and play with his cock!

Should I put on and remove my cock cage myself, or have my partner do it?

This depends on your level of self control! If you are able to exercise enough self-discipline to put on and remove your cage without touching your cock too much or getting hard, then you should definitely do so. This is a great way to demonstrate your obedience and ability to hold back to your keyholder, and possibly even earn yourself a reward while doing so! However, if you find yourself constantly putting your hands on your cock while messing with your cage, then it's time to politely and subserviently beg your keyholder to do it for you. Bad boys lose the privilege of putting on and taking off their own cages until they prove they can do so correctly!

What is the best underwear to wear with a cock cage?

Choose a pair of underwear that will support the weight of your cock cage without creating a noticeable "cage bulge" in the front of your pants. Wearing loose boxers or going entirely command is generally not recommended, because the weight of the cage pulls the cock down and can feel uncomfortable during extended wear. Briefs or hybrid boxer-briefs are a better option, because they "pin" the cage tightly to the body and provide it with some support. If you're interested in feminization or sissy play, panties also make an excellent option. They are tight and supportive, while also featuring adorable decorations such as frills, lace, and bows which will be pleasing to your keyholder's eye.

Can I sleep in my cock cage?

Yes! Cock cages are completely safe to be worn 24/7, without needing to take them off at all outside of special circumstances such as cleaning or doctor's appointments. However, you may have to adjust your usual sleeping position in order to accommodate for your cage. Some men who are accustomed to sleeping on their stomach or side may find these positions becoming uncomfortable. In general, sleeping on your back is recommended as it gives your caged cock the most support. Sleeping on your side with a large body pillow to brace against your body may also be a comfortable sleeping position.

Can I urinate while wearing my cock cage?

Yes! Unless your cock cage features a urethral plug, you will be able to urinate freely with no problems. All non-plugged cock cages feature a slit at the end which allows urine to be released. You can do your bathroom business just as normal! It is important to keep in mind that some men will have difficulty holding or manipulating their cocks while they are caged and may wish to try peeing while sitting down rather than standing up (yet another great element of "sissy-fication" which you can add to your chastity play!)

Cleaning Cages

How often should a cock cage be cleaned?

A cock cage should be cleaned at least one per month, although some men find themselves preferring more frequent cleanings, such as once per two or three weeks, to avoid buildup of lube or urine inside their cage. Make cock cage cleanings a regular part of your schedule and do not forget or skip a session simply because you feel you don't have the time - a cock cage which is kept clean will have a much longer lifespan (of up to several years!) than one which is allowed to simply "stay dirty".

How do I clean my cock cage?

Like many other sex toys, a cock cage is best cleaned using a combination of hot water and gentle, unscented soap or cleaner. Scrub carefully to make sure that all built-up dirt, grime, sweat, lube, urine or any other fluids which have built up are thoroughly cleaned away. Allow the cock cage to dry thoroughly before putting it back on, so that it does not chafe against the wearer's skin. (Some men also enjoy using their cock cage cleaning periods to clean their bodies too, taking a nice thorough shower while un-caged!)

Are there different cleaning methods depending on the material of my cage?

For the most part, all cock cages can be cleaned using the same combination of hot water and gentle soap or cleaner. However, any cleaner which contains silicone as an ingredient should not be used on silicone cock cages, as the material reacts poorly with itself and can degrade the material of the cage. Additionally, cages which contain electric shock capability should be cleaned extremely carefully and kept dry as much as possible, as water getting inside the electrical mechanism can cause it to stop functioning properly.

What cleaning materials should be avoided?

Stick to gentle cleaners at all times. Avoid anything too harsh which can scar or damage the surface of the cage. Additionally, do not choose any cleaners which have a strong scent, as these scents can linger long after your cleaning session has finished and bother your nose as you go about your chastity lifestyle. Finally, if a cleaner leaves any "sticky" or "tacky" residue, you should no longer use it to clean your cock cage, as it can rub uncomfortably against your skin and create a risk of infection due to buildup of leftover bacteria.

Keyholding

What does it mean to be a keyholder?

A keyholder quite literally does what their name describes - they keep possession of the keys to a man's cock cage, and is therefore the only person who is able to unlock his cage so that he can take it off. However, a keyholder's role involves so much more than this single and very literal job. They are in control of their man's cock, which means that they get to make important decisions such as when he may remove the cage, when he has to put it back on, and even when he gets to have an orgasm. They take on a powerful role with a lot of control over their man's life, and have the freedom to make rules as well as giving out rewards and punishments when those rules are upheld or broken. They are the person who takes the lead in a chastity relationship while the male chastity slave willingly submits and surrenders his control and power to his keyholder.

What should be done with the keys to a cock cage?

The majority of our Lock the Cock cock cages come with two keys, so that one can be kept safe in case of emergencies. We recommend that one key should always be kept in a safe, secure, and easy-to-reach place such as a drawer, safe, storage closet or perhaps even a safety deposit box for extra security. This key should never be touched or taken out of its place unless it is necessary to use it to immediately unlock his cock. Both the chastity slave and the keyholder should know where this key is kept and be able to access it in case of emergencies. As for the other key, well, that's entirely up to the keyholder! Some like to keep both keys locked away, while others prefer to store them somewhere public where their man can look but not touch, such as hanging on a hook in the bedroom or even around their neck as a sexy and commanding piece of jewelry!

Does a keyholder have to be a Dom / Domme?

No, they do not! A common misconception about the male chastity lifestyle is that it must also feature Dominant and submissive roles, with the keyholder as the Dominant and the male chastity slave as their willing, eager submissive. However, the actual details of a male chastity relationship are up to the partners who are involved in it, and do not have to include any BDSM elements at all. How controlling and dominant a keyholder wants to be is up to them, and you can DEFINITELY still be a successful keyholder even if you do not wish to take on an extremely dominant, commanding role. After all, gentle teasing is just as effective as cruel!

Can a keyholder use the keys to tease their chastity slave?

They most certainly can! When it comes to teasing, a key is one of the most powerful tools which a keyholder has at their disposal. It is a constant, physical reminder of the fact that his cock is all locked up and not under his own control. One extremely effective method of teasing is to wear a key around your neck like a necklace and constantly be playing with it with your hands all day. Run it through your fingers, hold it in your hand, and draw your locked-up man's eye to it through frequent teasing movements. You can also tease him verbally by reminding him that you hold the key, and can unlock him at any time - but, of course, you're not going to because it's so much more fun to watch him squirm!

Why should a keyholder and chastity slave sign a contract?

A chastity contract represents an agreement between keyholder and slave which outlines the rules of their male chastity lifestyle and play. A contract is important because it creates an opportunity for both partners to talk to each other openly about how they are feeling. Within the environment of creating a contract, a person can freely speak out about their fears, anything they are excited about, and both things they want and things they are not comfortable with and would like to avoid. By being honest together, a keyholder and slave can outline a healthy chastity relationship which works for the both of them and does not force either of them past their boundaries and limits. Writing it down in contract form also means that this agreement will be immortalized in permanent form and can be checked and referenced by either partner whenever they need to do so.

What should a chastity contract include?

A chastity contract should set the terms of the relationship which the slave and keyholder will swear to uphold. Most chastity contracts contain a list of rules which the slave must follow, as well as clearly defined rewards and punishments which the keyholder may dole out depending on how well their partner is following those rules. It can also set limits on periods of lockup, such as setting in stone how frequent cleaning sessions must be or how long a man is allowed to be locked up without having a chance to earn his orgasm. A successful chastity contract will be a clear set of ground rules so that both parties understand what their role is and what the other expects of them. (If you're struggling with the wording of your chastity contract, feel free to check out the example provided right here at Lock the Cock!)

What are some other ways a keyholder can tease their chastity slave?

The most effective way of teasing a chastity slave is by reminding him just how much time he has left before his next unlocking, how many weeks or months remain before he has even a chance of earning his orgasm. This will create a feeling of frustration which is actually unequaled by any other type of teasing. Here are some examples to get you started: prominently display a calendar in your bedroom and force him to mark off each day as it passes. Masturbate yourself (or make him pleasure you!) in front of him and remind him that you can have as many orgasms as you want - but he is forbidden to have any at all! You can even continue the teasing once he's unlocked by setting a timer for several minutes or hours where he must go about unlocked by still refrain from touching himself or having an orgasm.

What are some things a chastity slave can do to please their keyholder?

A good chastity slave should always want to stay in their keyholder's good graces, keeping them pleased and happy so that they might earn rewards such as a shorter period of lockup or a chance at an orgasm. They can do this by giving gifts and performing acts of service without being prompted by their keyholder. For example, a chastity slave can clean the house, cook a meal, give a massage or oral sex to their keyholder, or buy them new toys or clothing. Many keyholders report that they especially enjoy it when their slave performs chores around the house, as it was something the slave did not do frequently before being locked up, and the keyholder enjoys the decreased work and responsibility.

How can a keyholder punish a misbehaving chastity slave?

Punishments should always be negotiated between the keyholder and the chastity slave and be agreed upon and ideally written out in their chastity contract. Which punishments are acceptable and which are not okay will vary from one couple to the next - so there is no "one true answer" to this question, as each keyholder and slave's answers will be completely unique. However, if you are looking for some examples to get you started, popular punishments include: spanking, being tied/bound up and ignored, additional chores, or having to go around the house naked or on their knees for an entire day. Just remember, don't pick anything that your slave likes too much - it's not a punishment if they enjoy it!

Edging and Ruined Orgasms

What is edging?

"Edging" is a type of sexual teasing in which a person is brought repeatedly to the very "edge" of orgasm - typically as close as they can possibly get without going over - but continuing to repeatedly deny them the ability to cum. The most common way of edging a man is by stroking his cock until it begins to twitch and tremble and then removing your hand and giving him no more stimulation until he has sufficiently calmed down and is no longer in danger of immediately cumming. Edging is a very popular technique in male chastity relationships, as it is yet another way of teasing a locked-up partner and drawing out his orgasm even longer with only limited hope of relief. If he's been especially bad, try edging him several times and then locking him back up in his cage with no orgasm - that is nothing less than absolute torture!

Why is edging pleasurable?

Studies found that many men, when they masturbate, like to simply "get it over" as quickly as possible by rapidly stroking their cock and getting immediately to orgasm in just a couple strokes. The result of this depressingly common type of masturbation is a short, disappointing orgasm which is practically over before it started and provides the man with only a few brief seconds of pleasure. Edging completely reverses this by making him wait for the orgasm instead of rushing there as quickly as possible. Then, when he finally does cum, rather than a few mere seconds, he gets to experience the orgasm and its pleasurable aftershocks for up to a minute or perhaps even longer. (While edging is mostly talked about in relation to males, because women usually don't have the same "masturbating too quickly" problem, do not worry - women absolutely CAN enjoy edging, and will also experience a more drawn-out, intense orgasm when they try it out as well!)

What is the prostate?

The prostate is a small gland which only men possess. It is about the shape and size of a walnut, and is where some of the liquid which makes up semen is produced and stored before being released in the form of an orgasm. The prostate is generally located between the rectum and the bladder, and can be stimulated either by pressing against the back wall of the asshole or by rubbing against the perineum (the skin between the asshole and the testicles). Having the prostate massaged and stimulated is extremely pleasurable for men, and many even find that they can have an orgasm simply from having their prostate stimulated, without needing their cock or balls touched at all!

What is prostate milking?

"Prostate milking" refers to using only the prostate to drain semen out of the body, while the cock and balls are left completely neglected. It is an extremely useful process because it clears out prostate fluid, removing any built-up bacteria and preventing health issues such as swelling, inflammation and infection. Some people refer to prostate milking as a different type of orgasm, while others insist that it is not a "proper" orgasm because it can be achieved without getting an erection at all, and often does not involve the muscle spasms of the penis / pelvic area which make orgasm so pleasurable. A prostate milking session can be nothing more than a clinical draining of fluid, without any of the pleasure associated with having a "true" orgasm.

Can a man have a prostate orgasm / have his prostate milked while wearing a cock cage?

This will depend on the person. Many men report that they can still ejaculate via prostate stimulation (also called "prostate milking") while they are wearing the cock cage. However, others find that simply the sensation of wearing their cage is enough to mentally prevent them from ejaculating at all, even if they are being stimulated. Still others are extremely unused to having their prostate stimulated and need a great deal of practice and getting used to the feeling, but are eventually able to reach a point where prostate milking can be carried out successfully. If you are not sure which category you fall into, the best thing to do is practice! Try it out, and accustom your prostate to the feeling of being touched, stroked and massaged, and it is very possible that you will reach a point where you will be able to successfully be "milked"!

What is a ruined orgasm?

Like prostate milking, a ruined orgasm is another type of achieving ejaculation without providing a man with any pleasurable shakes, twitches or muscle spasms - a simple release of fluid with none of the positive feelings usually associated with it. In the case of a ruined orgasm, the penis is touched, stroked or sucked on rather than being ignored entirely. However, just as the man reaches the edge of orgasm, all touching and stimulation stops entirely. Because he is too close to releasing to be able to stop or hold himself out, the fluid drips and dribbles out, and he experiences no pleasure because his muscles are not spasming or trembling.

How does a ruined orgasm feel?

A ruined orgasm is an extremely embarrassing and emasculating experience for a man to have - not to mention practically the most frustrating thing which a man can have happen to him in the bedroom. Physically, he is denied all the parts of the orgasm that are actually fun for him, while mentally, he feels embarrassed because he is stuck with a weak, "dribbling" release of fluid (similar to a female orgasm) rather than a "proper" male orgasm in which semen spurts proudly from the penis with high intensity. There is absolutely nothing more frustrating or depressing than being stuck with a ruined orgasm and then having to get locked right back up in a cage with no hope of a "real" orgasm anytime soon. It should come as no surprise to you that ruined orgasms are one of the most effective punishments which a keyholder can use to make their bad chastity slave suffer!

How can a keyholder give their partner a ruined orgasm?

There are many ways to give a man a ruined orgasm - practically as many as there are ways to stimulate a penis. However, probably the most frustrating way of doing so is by using simple manual stimulation, giving him only strokes with a hand and denying him the more extreme pleasure of sucking his cock, using a toy on him, or allowing him to penetrate a pussy or asshole. Stroke the penis slowly and teasingly, perhaps bringing him to the edge and backing off a few times to build up the anticipation and ultimate frustration even further. Once he starts to get close, make him talk to you. Have him tell you when he is about to cum so that you will be able to identify the exact moment when you need to stop. Stop touching him and remove all stimulation from his penis just before "the point of no return," and then verbally tease and taunt him while his cum dribbles slowly and pathetically out with no pleasure to accompany it!

What is it like having an orgasm after wearing a cock cage?

Absolutely amazing! Having a "proper" orgasm (pleasurable muscle clenching and all) after a long period of being locked up in a cage is so wonderful that it is practically impossible to describe. The pleasure is more intense, the orgasm lasts longer, and the amount of semen released is greater than you may ever have experienced before. Your entire body and mind will be overcome with pure ecstasy - in fact, many men have described "blacking out" or "whiting out" as they finally reach that moment of long-awaited release. Having an orgasm after being locked up on a cock cage is true proof of the old saying "good things come" - or is that "cum"? - "to those who wait"!

Chastity Belts

What is a chastity belt?

A chastity belt is another unique tool which is used to prevent getting erections, having orgasms, or being able to carry out penetration. Although it performs similar functions to a cock cage, a chastity belt uses a different technique to do so. As its name suggests, it features a "belt" which locks around the wearer's waist and runs between their legs, trapping their genitals beneath it. The cock or pussy of the wearer is "stuck" behind a metal shield or leather or cloth pouch, usually fastened with a key in a similar manner to a cock cage. It is generally more intense-looking and difficult to put on when compared to a cock cage, but is still completely safe and capable of being used for long-term wear as part of a chastity lifestyle.

Can chastity belts be worn by men or women?

Unlike cock cages, which are meant exclusively for men, chastity belts come in different variations which can be worn by both men and women. Male chastity belts use a "pouch" to trap the cock, while female variations feature a thick strap that sits directly over the vagina and prevents any access. While a woman wearing a chastity belt can still experience arousal and even get "wet" as their body begins to release natural lubricant, they cannot reach their vagina with fingers, toys or their partner's cocks and thus will be completely unable to have an orgasm, leaving them just as frustrated as a man in a cock cage.

Can you use the bathroom while wearing a chastity belt?

This depends on the style and design of the chastity belt, and may not always be the case. Some chastity belts have a small slit or hole to allow urination, while others do not and are thus not suited for long-term use as you will have to "hold it" until the belt is removed. Because the asshole is generally only covered by a thin strap, most chastity belts do allow you to defecate normally as long as the strap is moved aside, however those which feature add-ons such as butt plugs may prevent this type of bathroom use as well.

What are the special features of a chastity belt?

Chastity belts are extremely attractive, erotic and look absolutely gorgeous while you are wearing them. They are made from eye-catching, sexy materials such as black leather decorated with silver buckles. For a dominant Master or Mistress, the sight of their partner wearing a chastity belt can be extremely arousing and truly a vision to be enjoyed. Additionally, chastity belts are extremely versatile and flexible tools which can feature a number of sexy add-ons to make your play even more fun. The most popular of these add-ons - and one which is included with many of our chastity belts here at Lock the Cock - is the ability to attach a butt plug and keep it trapped firmly within your asshole the entire time you are wearing the belt, with absolutely no chance of removing it until your Mistress or Master allows. Talk about endless, teasing frustration!