Male chastity has grown in popularity in recent years, with many more people having the “what is male chastity” moment than in the past. Even though so many people have heard of it, they often still don’t know very much about it.
So wether you’ve wound up here because some mentioned it, or you’re a total beginner thinking about trying male chastity, we’ve put together a basic guide to some of the first things people want to know about male chastity!
“Male Chastity? What’s That?”
At some time or another, most of us will look for something to make our sex lives more exciting. There are loads of different options out there, but some men choose to turn to male chastity.
“When you get down to basics, Male Chastity is about surrendering control of your penis to another.”
It can be your wife, boyfriend, or even a total stranger on the internet. Some men even enjoy chastity alone!
But what it means to surrender control can be vastly different from one man to another. And the shape your chastity pledge takes will change the things you enjoy about your experience.
Some men describe male chastity as "relaxing". Being able to totally submit and let their partner take control leaves them free to focus completely on the pleasures the body hold.
Others love to fill every desire of their partner, acting as the perfect slave. Of course the person holding the keys to the cage (often called the keyholder) gets to enjoy the life of luxury as they give the orders.
As you explore more and more aspects of male chastity you’ll find more pleasures to take enjoyment from. But for most men it all starts with a cock cage.
“And What Exactly Is a Cock Cage?”
A cock cage, penis cage, or chastity cage is a great device. It keeps the penis trapped and removes a man’s ability to get an erection, have sex or even orgasm. Cock cages take a key role in the male chastity lifestyle, where the male partner submits to his “Mistress”.
Men have reported that wearing a cock cage helps them become more sensitive, kind, and mentally focused as their brains are not dominated by their constant erections and need to orgasm.
Lastly, when you do have a full, unlocked orgasm after being denied for so long, it will be an absolutely powerful, amazing feeling more wonderful than any orgasm which you have ever experienced before.
“Well Now I Just Have More Questions”
We thought you might! Over the years we’ve been asked plenty of different questions from people new to male chastity. Here are some of the more common things you might be wondering.
How will wearing a cock cage improve my sex life?
Many men all around the world report that regularly wearing a cock cage leads to significant improvements in their sex life. They are less singularly focused on their own pleasure and are able to dedicate more time and mental energy to pleasing their partner.
What if my cock cage hurts or is uncomfortable?
If you feel any pain at all, remove your cock cage right away. Check the cage thoroughly for any breaks or cracks, while also checking your cock for any injuries or chafing.
If everything seems in order, give your cage a cleaning and use plenty of lube the next time that you put it on. Usually, that will address the problem. If it persists, it is likely that your cage is not fitting properly and you should look into purchasing a new model.
Do I need to use lube to put on my cock cage?
In general, it is recommended that you use lube the first few times you put on a new cock cage, and don't "go lube-free" until you've gotten used to its fit and feeling.
Can I urinate while wearing my cock cage?
Most cock cages feature a slit at the end which allows urine to be released. You can do your bathroom business just as normal!
It is important to keep in mind that some men will have difficulty holding or manipulating their cocks while they are caged and may wish to try peeing while sitting down rather than standing up.
Can Your Dick Fall Off?
A surprising number of people believe this can happen as a result of wearing a chastity cage. We can categorically say though that even after extensive research we couldn’t find a single instance where a man’s dick fell off. Most of the concern seems to stem from the ring which goes around the penis, but as long as this fits correctly, you’ll have no issues.
Do you wear the cage while you sleep?
This one’s entirely up to you! Naturally at some point most men will probably want to try keeping their cage on overnight, even if it isn’t recommended. Some men will have no issues, and can happily sleep wearing any cock cage they want. Others though can experience pain, trouble sleeping, chafing or other problems. In this case, you can still enjoy chastity as much as anyone, just take the cage off before you sleep and put it back on in the morning.
Getting Started With Chastity - Your First Few Days
The first things you’ll need to do when you first try male chastity are measuring and purchasing a cage. These are both topics that deserve to be discussed in more depth, so check out our other pages to find out more.
Once the cage is on, that’s it! You’re “doing” male chastity. Now what?
While the actual content of your first few days will be entirely up to you, we do have a few chastity tips to help you in the early days.
Trim Those Pubes!
Long pubic hair will almost certainly get stuck and tangled in your new cage. The constant tugging of the cage will be uncomfortable and probably slightly painful, so it’s better to keep things tidy and short while wearing a cock cage.
Some men stick to trims with razors or scissors, but others go further with waxing or hair removal cream. Experiment and see what’s most comfortable for you.
Keep That Cage Clean
As you start to wear your cage more and more, you might start to notice a bit of a bad smell building up. There’s no nice way to say it, but things tend to get a bit sweaty down there. Things are even worse if you have a cage that you keep on while you pee.
You should make sure to take the cage off regularly for a good clean. You might have some skin irritation while you get used to wearing the cage so using a soft, sensitive skin soap can help. Clean everything thoroughly, and use cotton buds to get into smaller spaces on your device.
Gradually Wear It For Longer
No matter how excited you are, trying to wear a cage all the time isn’t going to go well. You have to gradually build up over time.
When you first get your cage, start with an hour or so. Get used to what it feels like to wear it, and make sure everything is comfortable. Then over the first few weeks, start to wear it for longer and longer.
Taking your time like this can help avoid any embarrassing situations where you overestimate yourself but aren’t in a place where you can take the cage off!
Don’t Be Afraid to Take a Break
Just because your starting down the path of chastity, it doesn’t mean you can’t take a day off! Starting this kind of relationship can have many physical, psychological and emotional effects, so if you need a little time to cool off then don’t be afraid to take it. This is especially true when you’re just starting out, but as you gain more experience you’ll be able to go for longer between breaks.
Enjoy Exploring Chastity
There’s so much to think about when you first get introduced to the world of male chastity. The most important thing to remember is that you’re doing this to enjoy it!
Try not to get too hung up on anything that doesn’t go perfectly. Focus on the good times, and you’ll fall in love with chastity before you know it.
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